Top 10 Things Not To Do To Make Your First Date An Instant Success

First dates can either be super thrilling or turn into a complete train wreck for both people involved. To make sure your first date goes well, there are a bunch of important things to keep in mind. Since communication is crucial, it’s a good idea to think carefully about what you want to talk about or the questions you plan to ask your date.

Watch What You Say Or Do - But It Doesn’t Mean You Aren’t Being Yourself

A really good tip is to prepare the topics you want to focus on in advance, to avoid ecsesses in food or drinks, to listen actively and to go with the flow. Don't stress yourself out with difficult options and keep it simple. First dates are about getting to know each other and discovering interesting aspects of each other's personalities.

10 Biggest No-No’s On First Dates

Many first dates end in failure due to inappropriate conversations, hasty judgements or harsh decisions. Here are a few ideas of what not to do to make sure your first date goes well.

1. Shit-Talking Exes

Bringing up your past relationships can really kill the vibe and make your date feel awkward, especially if all you have to say is what a bitch they’ve been to you. It's best to steer clear of that topic, especially when you're just getting to know each other on a first date.

2. Offering Marriage

Bringing up marriage on a first date can be a bit scary and confusing for your date. To make the relationship work, take it one step at a time and focus on learning more about your date, such as your potential future partner's hobbies or skills.

3. Drinking Heavily

Although it’s highly suggested that you have a couple of drinks to relax, getting trashed might not be the best move. First, it’s not safe. Second, you want to be calm, collected and present to make (and form) the best first impression.

4. Talking About Your Health

Unless it’s not visible and needs to be addressed not to keep your date wondering - like you being in a wheelchair or having Tourette’s - talking about your health or any kind of medical problem you have may be too much for a first date. Wait until you know more about your date and feel that you can really trust them on such a sensitive subject.

5. Complaining About Money

Flaunting your financial problems can cause discomfort and confusion, If you are thinking about paying for your date or going dutch, don’t make it a big deal and pick a first date activity that is affordable for your finances.

6. Pushing Sex

Although is perfectly normal for a first date to get steamy, some people might be not the fans of the idea. If you are not sure on which side of the fence your date is, but you have your mind set on getting naughty, try to go about it in a clevel way, hinting and alluding, which can be foreplay in itself. But be careful not to push it. For example, do talk about sex in general, say that you think that male sex toys are the antidote for toxic masculinity and make compliemnts but DON’T tell that you used a realistic masturbator before you came here. Because she will choose the bear, if you know what I mean.

7. Dubious Jokes

Inappropriate or misogynistic jokes can really ruin your image on a first date. You don’t want to be testing your date’s dark sense of humor with edgy anecdotes even though your pals love them - choose something less controversial. 

8. Family Drama

Too much discussion about your family's conflicts can make the date awkward and uncomfortable. Avoid giving details about your loved one's struggles, especially on a first date.

9. Whining

We all have different kinds of frustrations that have built up over the years. Many of these can be very sensitive and it is better not to let everyone know about them.  Try to avoid deep and emotional topics on a first date.

10. Getting Political

Since everyone already knows that politics is very specific and perceived differently, it is best to avoid this topic on a first date. Don’t share your voting preferences unless straightforwardly asked - and don’t ask yourself. Focus more on interactive topics such as painting, music or films, unless they insist on talking how great America was (wink-wink). Then you just leave.

The First Thing To Mention On A FIrst Date Is That You’re Excited To Be There

When you're on a first date, steer clear of touchy subjects like politics, religion, finances, or past relationships. Keep things fun and easygoing by chatting about shared interests and enjoyable experiences. This way, you’ll set a chill vibe that helps you both bond and have a great time, paving the way for more dates down the line.